Okay, Let’s Go

So it’s book 5 of Heartstopper, and Nick and Charlie, after a painfully long time for the readers (although less for the characters) are prepared, have motive and opportunity… and from coy first kisses way back in book 1 are going to have …

Well, what are they going to have, and what do the readers have to read into text and image?

Conversations around sex and young adult literature seem to me to centre around two questions: Do the characters have to have sex? and How appropriate is the depiction of what they do? Since Alice Oseman’s style allows the (pretty inescapable) sex to take place, she is caught needing to decide on what to show. And it is “pretty inescapable,” in that the kissing that takes up the physical side of Nick and Charlie’s relationship from Ch 3 of Book 1 only starts to build much later – but build it does.

This has attracted a number of critical responses, summed up (and to a large extent demolished) in vlogs like this from Obviously Queer and elsewhere. [Heartstopper] “is unapologetically showing queer love being wholesome innocent and slow.” If this is not the case in other teen product or even in real life, the slowness of the developing relationship is charming, and leaves emotional room for the and finally of Book 5. This is a key scene, taking place some days before the excerpt below, and note that the reader is left to fill in at least some of the blanks.

It is clear from the conversations between characters that the blanks are to do with penetrative sex, and that after a very long period of awkward relationship development (the line “Why are we like this?” is a refrain in a number of scenes), we are seeing-yet-not-seeing something incredibly intimate, decorated with giggles and whispers, with trainers and trousers discarded, so with the condoms and lube Nick has bought in Oxford being brought out from his suitcase we have little room to doubt what’s going to happen. “Okay, let’s go” may sound more like the start of a rollercoaster ride than a key point in their relationship, but Oseman is entitled to depict these two star-crossed lovers as having fun.

Heartstopper Book 5, Ch 7, 1563

And this might be where the reader gets a shock: is it acceptable to see this as fun?

Of course it is. They may have taken what seems to me to be a very long time getting there, and Nick and Charlie, one of the satellite texts in the Heartstopper canon, suggests it was a bit nerve-wracking for the young characters to start, but maybe when we think of what is acceptable to be shown, we see Oseman’s skill at changing narratives. This is not about the mechanics (or geography, if you prefer the metaphor) of sex, or the metaphysics of love and sex, but simply about fun.

Is it right to depict sex as fun instead of guilt ridden (or even a liberation from guilt)? How does the adult gatekeeper react to this sidestepping of traditional attitudes and narratives? The argument about Lyra and Will in Pullman’s The Amber Spyglass (no time to talk about the do-they-or-don’t-they? or the Bowdlerisation of the US edition) suggests to me a deeply concerning attitide from adult readers: brought up on the post- D H Lawrence bonk fest, it is almost as if adults need to see the sex and then disapprove of it. Oseman is telling is This is Not Our World, even if once it was.

Where is Prince Hamlet When the Curtain’s Down?

Happy Ever After?

For some time I have been intrigued by the stories not told in books written with children in mind (I’ll use the shorthand “children’s literature” from now on): the author (and sometimes the reader) consider what happens before a story starts, what happens alongside and afterwards. In some books these “beyond the text” narratives are hardly dealt with at all, and characters emerge like Athene from the brow of Zeus, fully formed. It can work well: the child reader particularly perhaps invests in a child they might assume to be like themselves. Often the characters are introduced and then bits and pieces of their lives are dropped in. This too works well (if done sensibly), fleshing out details of the character as needed. Rarely, however, do we see this detail in the minor characters, and we are often left at the end of a book with “that’s all right then:” justice is served, wrongs put to rights and “all manner thing shall be well.”

Folktales, because the characterisation operates on a very different level, can sometimes have a sudden ending that is unsatisfactory in terms of modern structure: characters are set up, have an adventure or resolve a crisis and go away, go home, marry a prince or princess and live happily ever after. It seems to me that these stories have broadly the themes of return and resolution (often retribution). This kind of traditional tale may raise eyebrows as we read them today, but the point is that the curtain falls on a happy scene.

But what about afterwards? How long is “happy ever after” anyway? Ever strikes me as the problem here: per omnia saecula saeculorum is not how mortals live.

Sometimes, when picking up the “afterwards,” stories end with a challenge: The Lantern Bearers by Rosemary Sutcliff ends with the responsibility laid on the protagonist (and by implication the reader) that it is “for us to keep something burning to carry what light we can forward into the darkness and the wind. (I have blogged about it here); similarly Susan Cooper’s sequence The Dark is Rising ends with the charge “you may not lie idly expecting the second coming of anybody now, because the world is yours and it is up to you.” So it is ip to survivors and their descendents to make sense of it all, to take on the lessons learned. Peter Dickinson’s stories of the development of the first humans in Africa, The Kin, ends with a similar message – but of course the “for ever” includes us as readers, knowing the “hopes and fears of all the years” of humanity.

C S Lewis has it right, I think (and hence the title of this blog) in his sharp-eyed if rather wordy poem from The Pilgrim’s Regress:

Whom Thy great Exit banishes, no after age Of epilogue leads back upon the lighted stage.
Where is Prince Hamlet when the curtain’s down?
Where fled Dreams at the dawn, or colours when the light is sped?
We are thy colours, fugitive, never restored,
Never repeated again. Thou only art the Lord…

Although fiction of a very different kind, there is something of a parallel with A A Milne: at the end of The House at Pooh Corner, Pooh’s world does come to an end: Christopher Robin has the burden of knowing that he is growing up and away from his nursery companions (the “Lords of the Nursery” in the poignant Milne poem Forgotten) “looking out over the world and wishing it wouldn’t stop” (NB: this was an uncomfortable issue for Christpher as he grew up, as he records). Yet here, too, the author steps back from complete loss: Pooh Bear becomes the icon for a childhood largely lost, yet retained in a parallel world of memory, so that “in that enchanted place on top of the Forest a little boy and his Bear will always be playing.” It may be a fond wish of the author that his imagination will continue to colour his child’s life or a plea from the author to adult and child readers to retain something of the imagination and innocence of the Hundred Acre Wood – but whichever it is, in Milne’s world destruction is never that total.

While death is present in challenging, even nihilistic ways (compare Ehrlbruch’s meditative Death Duck and Tulip and Brooks’ brutal  Bunker Diary), it is rare for a book to deal with the end of all things explicitly. One book, Hiawyn Oram’s  Angry Arthur does so – or at least uses the imagery of destruction to describe a child whose emotions are raging: at the end, he is in bed, alone on a fragment of earth floating in space, his violent emotions subsiding, but unable to remember what caused his tantrum. Parents gone, world shattered. While it might be read as comic hyperbole, this has always struck me as an imperfect way to look at children’s uncomfortable emotions: almost completely destructive, with no way back. It does, however, raise the question of what will the end of my family look like? What will the end of the world be like – and what comes after it?  The issue is addressed in school and in popular science, but the probable absence of a human audience makes it an unlikely topic. 

In the book that first let me encounter the idea of total destruction, Comet In Moominland, the whole world is threatened with a fiery comet that will hit the earth on the seventh of October. “Mamma will know what to do,” Moomin comforts himself, although it is plain that a comet’s impact will be cataclysmic in a way that no Mamma will be able to lessen. In the finale, the cast of characters are gathered and are kept safe in a cave as the comet passes close by but does not hit Moominvalley. The threat of the comet (which may stand in the Moomin world for the Bomb?) passes away, and the horror of its near-destruction of the world is replaced by a restoration: a world back in the order it should have, an invitation to explore it. Mamma did indeed know what to do, although there is a concerted effort by everyone to bring them to safety. It is not the animals that keep themselves safe but a natural disaster that does not come about. The story therefore ends with an opening of a new view: “I think everything is still there… Come with me and have a look.” The new view takes Moomin, his family and friends into new adventures: total destruction has not come about, and the world is full of possibility.

The Letter

… begins “Dear Nicholas,” which is maybe as it should, but is also quite wrong; nobody calls me that. The last person to do so as a normal thing, my brother Glenn, died a couple of years ago. It is a signifier of the database form of address and alerted me to the formal tone of what was to come. Do I mean “formal”?

The contents of the first letter were mostly plain statements of facts: a list of symptoms and who had referred me to whom, test results, and a brief note on what the writer of the letter had found.

Childe Rowland to the dark tower came…

Nothing surprising. Factual, and the obvious word, clinical. Colourless, in contrast to my Technicolor emotions.

What was surprising were the omissions. The monster is not named; timescales for tests are shakey; the Big Timescales of prognosis are not mentioned. This is clinical, and those in charge for now of my health are also in charge of what can be expressed. The formal language if anything highlights what is not being said.

Henry Marsh has insights into this formality. He suggests that “faced by piles of paperwork and test results (now largely online) it is difficult to keep in mind that each result has an anxious patient attached to it” and that “much of what goes on in hospitals – the regimentation, the uniforms, the notices everywhere – is about emphasising the gap between staff and patients, and helping the staff overcome their natural empathy.”

“Patients want certainty but doctors can only deal in uncertainty.” This is something I shall have to hold on to.

***

Or not: a watershed crossed in late November and (to muddle my imagery) the dam bursts with info.

Information Pack

But even in the information flood there is uncertainty, and I look at all these guides like a first year undergraduate looks at a course handbook: so much to take in; how much of this is relevant?

***

So the latest letter is clearer, and today (11.12.23) is the day this word becomes flesh (why yes, this is all coloured in by the purples, reds and greens of Advent) with a F2F meeting. There is the scribble of results that is no more enlightening than the old-fashioned, mythic doctors’ bad handwriting, and then the veil is parted:

Unfortunately.

The job not got, the offer withdrawn, the bad news word. The heart races, sinks, I don’t know: rereading the text in the rush that follows I am struck by the name Gleason which takes me to the bull that tramples through Puck of Pooks Hill – thence my mind hears the yammering at my elbow of all those crazy, violent, vivid dreams that keep my sleep broken. Now Stop! Max said. And the wild things are stopped as by a lion-tamer’s whip and chair, stopped by another word:

However.

Watersheds and floods; dark towers and brave rescues; lion taming and þursen and the wild rumpus. Good, picaresque nonsense, jumbled fairytales to give shape, colour and texture to the bare outlines of grey corridors and professional friendliness and the heart-crunching worry of boring my friends.

Which is maybe what I’m doing here. Not a wild rumpus, not even an Ariadne thread, just a confusing set of encounters with images given a high fantasy gilding.

Time to stop and get ready for my consultation? Just one more thing, another letter:

A letter from the Blood Donor Service, in response to my having to withdraw from donation. It talks of ambassadors like you encouraging others to give blood…I hope you’ll continue spreading the word.

Give blood: https://www.blood.co.uk

And chaps: get your prostates checked https://prostatecanceruk.org/risk-checker?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAC_DJ7RCCrftQ3BTC63oIqJ-4wrw3&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI3qXct4iHgwMVrIpQBh1wXAqDEAAYAiAAEgJ2BvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

More Merlins

There comes a time when light entertainment on an evening’s telly is like a massive trifle: you know that there would be a time when you would enjoy it, but equally you know this is not that time.

That was a few nights ago.

So rather than sit with half an eye on Wimbledon and the rest of my attention on my ‘phone, I went out. Threatening rain, and not many cars on the roads: it was quiet. Some day birds still around – I could see and hear a Wood Pigeon and some Blackbirds, and up in a very tall willow, a Kestrel. And under that I heard a running set of tunes from littler birds.

I was able, by activating my new App, to map what was where. It was damp, getting dark, so I had a couple of Blue Tits, the Kestrel once, Great Tit and as I spotted, the Pigeons and the Blackbird. Low trees and bushes for the small birds, still zipping about, the Blackbird and Thrush in the lower branches of big trees and the Wood Pigeons ungainly in the top branches.

Warneford Meadow, early July.

Yesterday morning in the quiet garden the App gave a lot more: Goldcrest, a Robin, Magpies, and this evening a Blackcap. However, it gave me pause for thought, the same disquiet I have had when out with Mat: how much do I sacrifice of an holistic appreciation of place in order to name this plant, that village in the distance, that bird? I recall my comment that my experience of being outdoors “is enriched but also boundaried by names.”

This is where Merlin, the Cornell University App, comes in. As its introductory story suggests

Merlin is designed to be a birding coach for bird watchers at every level. Merlin asks you the same questions that an expert birder would ask to help solve a mystery bird sighting…It takes years of experience in the field to know what species are expected at a given location and date. 

https://merlin.allaboutbirds.org/the-story/

Years of indwelling, of spotting quietly and without sensationalism that bird you expected or didn’t expect. The same would be true of the hemlock by the path, the fallow deer by the car park, the otter footprint on the sandy bank. Parsing the landscape (a phrase used of Alan Garner, but this blog post has some interesting thoughts, too) must include the flora and fauna, and we have to then admit something not so much about our vision of the landscape but what we exclude. The dry stone wall or hedge is more than just a division; it is a provider of microclimates and refuges, shade or a safe place to pass unseen.

In the angle a narrow opening runs through between the two banks, whihc do not quite meet: it is so overgrown with bramble and fern, convulvulus and thorn, that unless the bushes were parted to look in no one would suspect the existence of this green tunnel, which on the other side opens on the ash copse, where a shallow furrow (dry) joins it. This tunnel is the favourite way of the rabbits from the copse out into the tempting pasturage of the meadow; through it, too, now and then, a fox creeps quietly…

Richard Jefferies, Wild Life in a Southern Country, Ch 11: The Homefield.

It is an added joy (for some) to know we are spotting Conicum maculatum, or Dama dama, or Lutra lutra, but for most of us, this doesn’t add to the experience of the environment. Just as E B Ford scathingly reports that

There has been a tendency for mathematicians to sit at home and deduce how evolution ought to work rather than base their analyses upon the results of observation in the field.

E. B. Ford (1979) Ecological Genetics

so the naming of the content of a hillside or a dune goes some way but does not – cannot – give a full picture on its own. This is why reducing Richard Jefferies (above) to the list (below) is a reduction almost ad absurdum:

and is why Roger Deakin’s Wildwood is as much a sociology of plants and humans as it is a travelogue* or Jefferies’ writing is an “intuitive ecology” (to borrow Mabey’s phrase from his introduction to the Little Toller edition of Jefferies’ masterpiece), with an “insistence on the connectivity of the natural world.” And it is these connections that help me pose questions: why no wrens in my back garden? What do those song thrushes do when they call out those maddeningly different snatches of tune?

The Merlin App, to give it its due, is not simply an amateur’s way of finding what chirrupped like that, what irascible song bird scribble came from that bush like that, but a massively ambitious attempt to bring together all the naming of parts from around the world – and I love it, and what it teaches me. But the great writers on nature are able to move from observation in the field to exploring the rich and precious connectivity of the landscape, while bringing an understanding of the individual elements: a genuine reading of all the elements that make up a story, a close reading and a parsing, for which my naming this plant or animal is (to continue the metaphor) just me “barking at text.”

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*Wildwood continues to be a delightful book: the story of the apple trees and their transit through Europe, for example, remains a beautiful piece of writing as well as an illuminating account of a major, if too little known, story of ethnobotany.

Dads and Art: some emotional landscape painting

or

And When Did You Last See Your Father?

Fictional child is called upon to display courage, loyalty and maybe moral leadership as a Puritan Government official questions him about his father, whom Cromwell’s officers are pursuing. Family watch anxiously from the left of the picture, while on right, the table, the gentlemen facing back into the room, the wall behind them all put a stop to the narrative continuing. The young boy is at the extreme of the crisis, facing stern authority without his dad. The tearful big sister is going to be next, and the hand of the soldier on her back suggests she is being pushed forward: all rests on the boy.

And yet the father is present, in a way: the firm gaze of the boy confronting his inquisitor, his hands behind his back. He has learned what it is to stand firm.

The awkward irony of this post is that the dads I will be discussing are very much in evidence, and the children are not the immaculately turned-out boy in pale sky blue (or indeed the tearful girl who we might assume to be his [?older] sister), but the children at the heart of the swirling emotions of books by Anthony Browne and Ian Eagleton/Jessica Knight. And they are not firm of purpose, but children in flux. I contend that both families are labile, and face challenges just as the wrong-but-romantic Cavalier family I started with. But while the when-did-you-last-see-your-father brigade propose an image of weak and tearful females as opposed to the firm chin and still form of the boy, the boys and men I want to discuss are survivors becaue of their openness to change.

There is a tangible absence in Ian Eagleton and Jessica Knight’s story of little Rory; his dad has moved out (or mum has moved out), and Rory, his lookalike son, lives with mum and mum’s new boyfriend, Tony. Rory misses his dad, although they meet up for an archetypical Saturdads time together in the park. In Rory’s Room of Rectangles Tony, nervous of the responsibility, takes Rory to an art gallery. They don’t see And When Did You Last See Your Father? or Käthe Kollwitz‘s unbending, grieving Father (I’m rather glad to say) but rooms of art which nevertheless challenge and move the little boy. They find nightmarish pictures, shimmering shapes and bright, loud, fierce art before coming to Tony’s favourite room. Tony is clearly not just joining in with Rory’s delight in painting: he gives something of himself in the room full of vibrant blues. This self-disclosure is key to the narrative: Tony is giving up something here. This is a risky day for all of them.

There is an unwelcome presence (as I see it) in Anthony Browne’s story where the dad – who uncomfortably dominated his family’s trip to the Zoo – similarly tries to assert himself in the hallowed halls of a London art gallery. In The Shape Game, his being there does not make for an easy read. Boorish, ill-at-ease when he is not the centre of attention, Browne seems to me to have created a figure of whom every dad reading the book would ask, anxiously, “Is this me?”

In Rory’s case he does find something new about his dad (does he, in a sense, rediscover his father?) and Tony’s sensitivity hints at a healthy relationship beginning here. What transformations of a father do we see in Anthony Browne’s Dad figure in The Shapes Game?

Here they are at the start of the book: dull tones, and a heavy border indicate a sense of entrapment. Maybe even Mum, leading the way for her birthday treat, senses it, with her three males slouching behind her.

This is not the footie match Dad and older brother are missing: there is little sense that today will be even mildly pleasant, let alone transformative.

Someone is going to have to give something up if today is going to be worth anything.

If he is confronted with motives to change, it is the art he encounters which forces Dad to become more open.

So here they are at the end of their visit. There is no frame to suggest they are trapped; the architecture across the river is transformed; the sky has a cloud-dove (a dove of peace?); Mum and Dad are walking together and the graffiti hints at the eponymous Shape Game the boys will play on the way home. The experience of the gallery has changed them all – and the autobiographical note at the beginning suggests it was this trip to the art gallery “that changed my life forever.” Mum had wanted to go “somewhere different,” and this has a deeper significance than simply a different physical location: the family are moving into a different place, and even home will be different.

Rory, in the Eagleton/Knight story experiences a transformation. But, like the family in Browne’s trip to the art gallery, is it only the little boy? Under Tony’s guidance Rory moves from room to room in the gallery, seeking something in all these forms of art to help him make sense, but outside is were he meets his father again. We get a hint that maybe he is on his mum’s boyfriend’s territory – or at least their common ground – with art, but the adult reader will maybe supply the conversations about how the three adults – mum, mum’s boyfriend, and dad – see Rory’s problems and propose a solution. In other words (to make the comparison between the two books), Dad and the boys in The Shape Game change by exposure to the art they encounter, whereas Rory comes to terms with his emotions in the gallery, while his three parenting figures have transformed their relationship “off-stage.”

What has changed?

Rory’s loyalty to his dad remains unshaken: he is, in this, like the boy who begins this blog post for us. But he has undergone something in the art gallery – and in the rage before it, and the reconciliation that follows it.As two American authors have put it* they – the males in both stories – are seen “developing and reclaiming their own fundamental human capacities.” It was in all four characters confronting their discomfort that they, like Anthony Browne’s family, move to “somewhere different.”

*Di Bianca, M. and Mahalik, J.R. (2022) ‘A relational-cultural framework for promoting healthy masculinities’, American Psychologist, 77(3), pp. 321–332

Badgers, Wildcats and Tulips

Some thoughts on picturebooks about death.

In my Twitter bio I often have some mention of my interest in picturebooks along the lines of looking for answers to big questions in small books. The review of Yumoto and Sakai’s The Bear and the Wildcat that I did recently for Just Imagine raised more questions about maybe the biggest of big questions, or at least the biggest in terms of what can be depicted in picturebooks: how do we deal with death?

For me, at any rate, The Bear and the Wildcat stands as one of the greats. Plain text, subdued artwork, and just enough raw emotion to take the reader somewhere uncomfotable. Why is the discomfort important?

Compare the two images here: the little bird from The Bear and the Wildcat and the family saying goodbye to their cat in Viorst and Blegvad’s The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. Both sparse in their own way, but the impact of the image in Barney is more muted because of the lack of the cat. Because Barney is really about the burial and what happens afterwards, Erik Blegvad focuses on the family (and the argument about heaven and decomposition). This is not an easy text, but it is the ideas in the dialogue that stand out for me.

A number of writers discuss death in picturebooks. Kelly Swain, for example, in the Lancet Child and Adolescent Health writes of her neice asking rather literally whether Great-Grandma Nancy had gone up to heaven or into the ground. The same question occurs in Barney. In the debtae about whether the cat is in heaven there is real impatience and ambiguity. Not so for the little bird in The Bear and the Wildcat, whose dead body is shown starkly but without sensation: the focus here is grief.

We meet bereavment in Varley’s classic (and in its time quite daring) Badger’s Parting Gifts, and we have also a desctription of death from Badger’s point of view: a “strange yet wonderful dream” yet going down a tunnel (a sort of good place for a Badger to go, and actually not unlike the behaviour of some Badgers).

The book that still feels to me raw and angry as well as deeply felt is the great book by Michael Rosen, his Sad Book, where Quentin Blake’s artwork walks hand-in-hand with Rosen’s pain.The lone figure in the evening rain, hands in pockets; the single candle of a painful solitude. In many ways the turning-point picture in The Bear and the Wildcat seems to me to be much the same: despairing loneliness, and the overarching bleak dark. Painful to read, but beautifully told, and certainly chimes with my own experience. In discussing the Sad Book Maria Popova in the gobsmacking Marginalian blog puts it so well:

What emerges is a breathtaking bow before the central paradox of the human experience — the awareness that the heart’s enormous capacity for love is matched with an equal capacity for pain, and yet we love anyway and somehow find fragments of that love even amid the ruins of loss.

Michael Rosen’s Sad Book: A Beautiful Anatomy of Loss, Illustrated by Quentin Blake https://www.themarginalian.org/2015/08/25/michael-rosens-sad-book-quentin-blake/

Other stories are possible, too. In Maia and What Matters we have a true-to-life complicated story of a grandmother losing her words and mobility, a grandfather dying, and little Maia, caught by all sorts of adult pressures being the one who knows what matters. True-to-life text here stands in tension with dreamy artwork where symbol and tone show Maia growing and loving and getting angry and taking charge in page after page of real days and might-have-beens until we are at the final denouement of grandma beside her husband’s coffin, stroking his hair. (As an aside I decided only to show the cover, because the large format of the book would be given no recognition by a small picture or excerpt of a larger spread)…

I have mentioned the companionship of death in Duck, Death and the Tulip – like The Bear and the Wildcat, another triumph from Gecko Press – and the picture here shows tenderness – and comedy? The incongruity of their friendship [until a cool wind ruffles Duck’s feathers] does allow for a wry smile:

Actually he was nice (if you forgot for a moment who he was). Really quite nice.

Wolf Ehrbruch, Duck, Death and the Tulip.

In The Bear and the Wildcat we look hard at grief; but in Thomas and Egneus’s Fox: a Circle of Life Story it is remarkable in its absence. The vixen is hit by a car, the cubs watch and then go their way. The fox is part of the autmnal decay –

“Tiny creatures get to work and fox begins to fade away.”

Back to earth, to plants, to air flow the tiny particles that were once a fox.

Isabel Thomas, Daniel Egneus Fox: A Circle of Life Story

And so we come to a couple of books that do not look at grief, or at the possibility of an afterlife, but at a stark reality – only to find that in neither book is it particulartly harsh. The fox dies (quickly: no agony; no hunting horn) and in this last text, Lifetimes by Bryan Mellone and Robert Ingpen,

Nothing that is alive goes on living for ever… Sometimes, living things become ill or they get hurt. Mostly, of course, they get better again but there are times when they are so badly hurt or they are so ill that they die because they can no longer stay alive.

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/113067/lifetimes-by-bryan-mellonie/

I might raise an eyebrow at the over-comfortable “Mostly,” but the book is clear about what will happen, and that this is part of they way things live “and that is their lifetime.”

So there seem to me to be ideas here worth disentangling. I have had to cut out for brevity Oliver Jeffers’ wonder The Heart and the Bottle in which grief is the key driver of the narrative – or, if not grief, then the love that engenders sorrow – and Glenn Ringtved’s Cry, Heart, But Never Break where again a personification of death imparts some wisdom, and so many more. But these stories deal with two principal themes: bereavement, and inevitablity/natural cycles. Maybe the “inevitability” books are ones that any child will be intrigued by; the bereavement books may have a particular audience. And this was where I stumbled in my review for Just Imagine. When asked “Who is this book (in this case, The Bear and the Wildcat) for?” it is often hard to pick an age range or educational context. Does this mean, however, that we must restrict children’s reading? Not for me: but it does mean that it is incumbent on educators (including the wonder that is a good school librarian) and parents to approach books with respect and something like humility. There are books for children and among them ones that will move adults to tears as well, and sometimes, even in the heart of their own sad time, the grown up needs to see which book a child might like, be interested in, be comforted by. It’s not easy.

I have met educators and parents who have said, of Duck, Death and the Tulip, that they would “never let a child have that book.” It clearly stirs something in us of a desire to protect children from the ultimate monster under the bed; yet there is even in that book a sense of hope. Death is not something to fear. And in the book that sparked this blog post, the sensitive and beautiful story of a bear who has lost his best friend, there is hope. Not some great afterlife hope – even though we are in Easter Week as I write – but simply that friendship helps, and that life goes on. |It can be painful and crazy as in Sad Book, and it can look like the comfort is illusory as in the discussions around Barney the cat, but there is this: compassion and friendship.

“All around us, and everywhere, beginnings and endings are going on all the time.”

Points of needles, edges of swords, blades of axes

I started this post in February on what I described as “an odd day,” where I had been looking for material on meditation and spirituality, mostly because I was fretting about a postgraduate class on Early Childlhood spirituality that I was due to teach. One book leads to another like something out of The Name of the Rose, so for entirely different reasons than I’ve ended up with, I was looking at Rob Macfarlane’s great book Landmarks. I came across his account of the Kalevala (Landmarks, Ch6, by the way) and Vainamoinen Finds the Lost-Words:

Robert Macfarlane: Landmarks cover

Its hero, Vainamoinen, is trying to build an enchanted ship of oak wood in which he will be able to sail to safety ‘over the rough sea-billows.” But he is unable to conclude his shipbuilding for want of three magic words…

And along with various other things I’ve been reading, here was the image I was looking for – not for my class on spirituality, but actually for an entirely different class on Play. To Macfarlane, the finding of the lost words is the key or maybe even the origin-text, it seems to me, to his – and Jackie Morris’ – beautiful collaboration The Lost Words and the works that have come from it. For me it provides an entry into the search that Vainamoinen undertakes, and with it a search a lot of educationalists are seduced into undertaking: a set of spells from the past that will give us just a few magic words that will enable us to create the way we want to go across the rough seas of educational theory. To get there we have to look all over the place – see Rob Macfarlane’s account where Vainamoinen searches through improbabilities of swallow’s brains, swan’s heads and the like – until we face a place of conflict: in the Kalevala this is a journey over the points of needles, the edges of swords and the blades of axes.

And it struck me that far, far too often, educators spent their time looking for the three magic words that will solve their problems, and that they will seek those words out despite the cost.

Pinning one’s hopes to a single answer – and in the story just cited, a simple formula – is hopeless when critically exploring something as complex as pedagogy. the Education Endowment Foundation (summary review) gets round this by assuming that everyone can sign up to the statement:

Learning requires information to be committed to long-term memory

Acquiring language, developmental considerations would seem to be set aside, alternative provisions and pedagogies forgotten or (as the salivating Twitterati are wont to do) denigrated and mocked, were it not for the statemant that

Our review is founded on the view that translation of evidence from basic science is neither simple nor unproblematic.

EEF Review p6

So while I had thought of a (deliberately) controversial title for this post:

Why CogSci is Rubbish

To be quickly followed by

Why Forest School is Rubbish

I really have to avoid the cheap tricks and hark back to the word I slipped in earlier in this post

Critically

And it has a lot of work to do, that little word. Who gets to be critical about the work teachers do? Are teachers meant to be professionals? Do they critique their work reflectively? Most topically, given this week’s unhappy occurrences, are we to see teachers as direct agents of Government, QUA[N]GOs like OFSTED, individual ministers and their inner circle, &c., in a trend of disempowerment and control that was certainly well under way by the late Eighties? Or are they reflective workers, whose tasks are quality assured, both internally and through independent scrutiny?

And this is where we come to the points of needles. When the Early Years practitioner comes to articles such as Brain Development and the Role of Experience in the Early Years (Tierney and Nelson, 2009) we read that

 ….experience shapes the structure of the brain…for healthy development of brain circuits, the individual needs to have healthy experiences

and we might be tempted to take this to mean that this vital role of experience is all. This, however, denies the assertion that

Applying the principles of cognitive science is harder than knowing the principles and one does not necessarily follow from the other. Principles do not determine specific teaching and learning strategies or approaches to implementation.

In the same way, the unreflective CogSci advocate might be tempted to retort “Ah, but this isn’t what I mean by the word ‘learning.’ We are in the Humpty Dumpty world where this exchange is enviaged by Lewis Carroll:

“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in a rather scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean – neither more nor less.” “The question is,” said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.”

The word is either insufficient for the observant practitioner or for the theoretician mindful of where their words will go. The same is true of the unreflective use of ideas such as “freedom” (freedom to be a child) or even “nature:” which brings me back to where I started last month.

It is easy for me to hone in on pedagogy whether underpinned by applied cognitive neuroscience or whittled hazel sticks – but we (I) need to be aware of our own three magic words, those words we try to somehow make their own unspoken axioms. And what would my three magic words be?

When I came back to this post last week I started with the idea of an axiom and, of course, started a Google search. The second question in the list that came up was

Does axiom mean truth?

Do I just assume that spirituality is a thing? Is play not merely a slippery concept but a clumsy agglomeration of phenomena? And what about outdoors – my garden? The Lye Valley? Is my looking at Margaret McMillan a search through ancient lore for The Answer?

Lye Valley tree

Bucking, Mucking and…

Yes, of course it’s NSFW; it’s about swearing, by all that’s grokely*.

In the coming semester, “my” students in the Becoming a Reader** module for Brookes will meet books I have labelled unsuitable. They include texts from another age with explicit racism in them right through to innocuous books of poor quality, and the questions will be around what we might construe as suitability and the judgement of suitability. I have sometimes used Mansbach and Cortes’ Go the Fuck to Sleep, too (the video is here) – I see there is now a boxed set of books – to look at where this is a sort of in-joke, where we all know when a book is not for children. And then we can ask “unsuitable for whom?” and “what makes this unsuitable?” The joke in Go the Fuck to Sleep is in the dislocation between the format – text and illustration – where on the one hand we expect a children’s book and yet we see a text full of irritation, even anger, and one of the “worst” examples of bad language in current English. It’s funny because as a children’s book it is impossible. I am reminded of the apophasis in Roald Dahl’s Revolting Rhymes were Goldilock’s swearing is so disgusting as to be considered unacceptable:

I dare not write it, even hint it

Nobody would ever print it

Dahl, R: Goldilocks

…or the places where the taste for the tasteless is tickled in Raymond Briggs’ depiction of his eponymous hero Fungus reading John Dung (read: Donne). The omissions make the mind boggle – although the original*** too seems to me to be deliberately transgressive.

As a quick sideline, please note that the title of this post refers not to this comic circumlocution or even the earthy originals, but back to the noxious Miss Hardcastle in Lewis’ That Hideous Strength, whose use of “bucking” seems a substitute for “fucking.” She is not alone in using the word – but in Lewis’ 1945 text (thirteen years after Lady Chatterley) I feel it is Lewis controlling the swearing, letting his readers in on what she must have said really. We are discomforted by the ways the bad guys and their associates swear even if we don’t see it in front of us baldly.

But what about the discomfort that we find in YA literature? Where does verisimilitude clash with the gatekeepers – and are they the publishers? Or book buyers? Who makes the decisions?

More Heartstopper, I’m afraid, as the lens through which to look at an aspect of children’s/YA literature. And while I am advertising in the sub-heading above that some of the language and concepts might be NSFW this is in the context of trying to make sense of swearing and not-swearing and a sort of in-between phenomenon that is hinted at in the title. As not-so-much-a reference-list-more-an-indication-of-where-I-went, I’d refer you, for starters, to

  • Michael Adams’ 2016 In Praise of Profanity
  • Keith Allan and Kate Burridge’s 2006 Forbidden Words: Taboo and the Censoring of Language
  • Tony McEnery’s 2005  Bad Language, Purity and Power from 1586 to the Present

…which really only indicates that I have dipped into this complex world in which we might see the discourse of purity, with McEnery, as a discourse of power. Who controls “bad language”(McEnery’s term) in children’s books? To what extent is it controlled? For whom is it controlled? Is the bigger question about whether language alone can denote a book as unsuitable just too big? And if language is a small, measurable aspect of suitability, how is it measured?

I came up with the spectrum below in an attempt to get somewhere with what kind of language might be subject to control. To make it I drew heavily on McEnery’s book, and became engrossed in tables 2.1 and 2.4, which set out the uses of various swear words. It follows my own gut instinct, but draws on the scale of offence (see below). For “religious” I would go for “God,” “Jesus,” &c.; for “body shaming” I would go with “fat” and other similar terms, but also drawing attention to body parts – hence body part 2 . I decided the best way to look at body function was to divide “pee” from “piss,” “poo” from “shit,” but then “bum” and “arse” aren’t so clearly distinguished – except that a child might say they fell in the playground and their supervisor might accept “It hurt my bum” but would raise an eyebrow at “It hurt my arse.” Allen and Burridge have a table (p32, Table 2.1) of orthophemisms (e.g. “toilet”) with an accompanying euphemism (“loo”) and dysphemism (“shithouse”) which reminded me of a child I once taught whose everyday use was what Allen and Burridge classify as dysphemisms. He would, without any sense of incongruity or transgression, tell me he was “just off for a crap,” when a “poo” was the usual word. With the rise in books which discuss poo but don’t explore dysphemisms, at this point I have to say that there looks like a really good study somewhere for someone attempting to regularise a spectrum such as this, and to reconcile it with uses among readers and the texts they encounter…

Draft spectrum

But other configurations would be possible, and a scale of offence would need to take into account adult ears, context, class. Sampling texts would be a problem, but could be taken historically: the spectrum above would look different in 1973 (“The Dark Is Rising“), different again in 1950 (“The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe“).

It is interesting to note that while the language in Alice Oseman’s Heartstopper world is closer to a recognisable language of secondary boys, the Netflix version has the swearing pruned: no fucks. In one scene, Charlie is being attacked by Ben, a boy with clear sexual intent, and is rescued by Nick; it is a pivotal scene, where Nick’s physicality is matched by the anger in his language. This suggests to me that as with many things to do with language, context is everything, and with this comes what McEnery’s scale of offence (table 2.12) where “prick” is seen as a moderate word, but “fucking” is strong. Ben is dismissed with a push and told to “fuck off;” Netflix has Nick say “piss off.” And off Ben pisses (or, if you’re reading the online version, fucks): at any rate he leaves.

Perhaps most relevant is McEnery’s discussion of age (p38, with table 2.1), which identifies the under 15s and under 25s as having the highest frequency of bad language words per million words. In other words, the consumers of YA literature seem to swear the most. It seems to me that the gatekeepers of YA texts shy away from allowing a real set of bad language usage. Does this have implications for young teen readers? Hmmm: perhaps I would have said so before I watched my granddaughters launch into Manga, even into the school romance of Heartstopper. I wish I were looking at boys of the same age and their reading. I have a sneaky feeling that while Manga and fantasy graphic novels might well be there, Heartstopper would not. Perhaps this is a shame; perhaps I am wrong anyway.

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*The irate Edward the Booble swears like this in the Exploits (Memoirs) of Moominpapa. Given the force for depression that the Groke embodies, and her role as symbol of loneliness in Tove Jansson’s work, “grokely” is not really a way of sidestepping swearing but bad language wholly consistent with the world Jansson has created.

**In case anyone wants to have a hissy fit about this blog being me wasting taxpayers’ money, well, I’m afraid most of the swearing &c won’t be in the taught class. Sorry to disappoint.

***Rank sweaty froth thy mistress’ brow defiles,
Like spermatic issue of ripe menstruous boils. https://www.luminarium.org/sevenlit/donne/elegy8.htm

Kent and the Frozen North

Myth and Reality in younger gay fiction

And of course I could start by demanding of myself a definition of “younger,” “gay” and “fiction,” but in reality I’m going to look at two (set of) texts that have crossed my path recently: the Heartstopper books and Ian Eagleton’s reworking of the Snow Queen, The Woodcutter and The Snow Prince. The first world, I’m going to suppose*, sets a boy-meets-boy story in an everyday neighbourhood, somewhere south of the London sprawl (the text almost tells us: Rochester) where unhappy teenagers discuss their issues over social media; in The Woodcutter and The Snow Prince, Woodcutter Kai’s village is the low-tech/high magic setting for a a boy-meets-boy story, too – but seeing both stories side by side, I am struck by the question: what makes the fairy tale world work differently?

The versions at the back of our minds as we read traditional tales/fairy stories have probably got a moral, even if we aren’t wholly aware of it. Cinderella and her glass slipper that is the symbol of her fragile steps into courtly life; the Little Red Hen and her energetic self-reliance; Beauty and the Beast, Puss in Boots and all these others ask the modern adult reader to look deeper and to see quite what models of childhood, and society in general, are being employed. In the selections we have readily available today such as Pullman’s selection of Grimm or most recently Neil Philip’s Watkins Book of English Folktales, messages often seem to me pretty clear: status brings happiness (by and large); marriage makes you happy; a wary eye and an opportunity at the right moment may change your life.

I am joining a debate here about the role of texts in children’s literature that has its roots in the improving books of the early nineteenth century – and earlier – see below – which set the role of the author and the adult choosing the book as fundamentally about instructing children in making choices adult society will approve of. Mercilessly lampooned by Saki in his short story The Storyteller, and by Hilaire Belloc in his Cautionary Tales for Children, understanding where this basic objective sits in relation to gay fiction is important in grasping the reason for the vitriol that seeks to silence gay voices. In addition it also helps to understand why and how we tell stories.

It seems to me that Traditional Tales are rarely unchanged, but are altered in big ways or little. Often telling stories involves retelling old ones, looking at them and saying “how does this apply to my life/the lives of the children with whom I read?”. This can be a blatant reworking where the ‘message’ of an earlier story is skewed (The Little Mermaid would be a case in point, where the mermaid in the earliest story by Hans Cristian Andersen is left working out her salvation across the centuries, unlike Uncle Walt’s version where the mermaid gets her man). Traditional tales have always been subject to the movements of tradition: the contexts in which stories are told are subject to change, just as the vision of the setting changes too. More subtly the ideas and themes are reworked to allow a modern audience access to ideas and characters. Some of this is enlightening, revealing new insights into old stories or telling us something about different audiences. Conjoining myth and reality works, for example, for Joseph Coelho in his poem/novel The Boy Lost in the Maze, as it did in the 1950s for Mary Renault – but this is not what either Ian or Alice are attempting. Indeed, one of the immediate strengths of Ian’s book is that the young man, Kai, is already part of a mythic landscape, The Frozen North. Like his previous reworking of Hans Cristian Andersen, which I discussed here, Ian has set the story so that the principal human character, Kai is involved in a life far away from that of many of the intended readers. This allows the dynamic between the Prince and the Woodcutter to remain absolutely centre stage, as in any true stripped-to-the-bone fairy story.

Of course, this paring down might have come to us from the early collectors. As Angela Carter points out in her introduction to the Virago Book of Fairy Tales, the editorial fingers are already at work as the first collectors transcribe – and, I suppose, before, as people telling stories to collectors might think “I can’t say that” or “they wouldn’t want that one.” Verbatim transcription cannot have been easy, and editing has been seen as like putting tinsel on a dinosaur. Class has been redefined, or become a subtext, sexual content suppressed or been tinselled into symbolism. So we have little glimpses of topography where maybe there was an origin legend or a clear location (see my post here on Tom Tit Tot), but the paring down for outsiders leaves us an unreal city, an any-old-castle, the universal wood. Ian Eagleton and Davide Ortu’s Faraway Forest is the Universal Wood as it stretches up into that other mythic place: The Frozen North.

Davide Ortu's illustration of Kai and the Snow Prince: the journey to the Prince's castle.

If I say that among the “immediate strengths” of Woodcutter is this mythic landscape, the same is true in reverse for the Heartstopper books. A different paring down to essentials is required here. An immediate plunge into a world of bullying, of negotiating the safe places in school, or of being late for Maths allows the reader access without the leap of imagination: fountain pens leaking, and who gets to be in the Rugby team are recognisable landmarks. “You know this place” is really where the bare illustrations and text take us. We are less clear about Kai and his world, but that’s because we are on a different path; Eagleton and Ortu take us to the magic Frozen North and again we say “we know this place” – but in a different way of knowing.

Family life, in the traditional tale, no matter whence its provenance, is never more than one step away from disaster, suggests Angela Carter and this is in some ways because the sparseness of the story – narrative, setting, character – is echoed in the death that often sets the principal character at odds with their world (Cinderella) or off to seek their fortune (Puss in Boots). With Kai, it is his community’s own fearful “old wives tales” about the Prince that are the thing he will need to come to terms with. Often the hero or heroine will have a difficulty to conquer: the family collapses, or disperses, but we are rarely given much in the way of description to aid our imagination, and remains hand-crafted. I suspect that this “bring your own furniture” sparseness is what allows the devourer of the traditional tale to say with Phillip Pullman, remembering his childhood reading “I want to be in this story with them.”

So I have to be clear I’m not setting out to compare texts in a crude way: both approaches have strengths. But I am struck by how a reader has to make a different set of strategies work in the two different authorial approaches. Are we actually facing here examples of text-to-life and life-to-text reading? Is this true of traditional tales and “real life” dramas? Are traditional tales “real”? What purpose do they serve?

In the debate between Dawkins (who has claimed Fairy Tales have a pernicious effect) and Pullman, the creator of one of the most beautiful, complex sets of fantasy worlds remembers that when he was playing out his fantasies, his mind

…was feeling a little scrap – a tiny, fluttering, tattered, cheaply printed, torn-off scrap – of heroism…Exhilaration, heroism, despair, resolution, triumph, noble renunciation, sacrifice: in acting these out, we experience them in miniature or, as it were, in safety.

Philip Pullman “Imaginary Friends” in Daemon Voices

Is this the effect story has on childhood imagination? That it teaches by inviting experience-at-a-distance, by getting the audience to enter into its world? That there is a long standing thread of moral didacticism in children’s literature is uncontested. John Newberry’s Pretty Little Pocket Book (cited in extenso in Patricia Demers’ From Instruction to Delight), has incidents in a child’s life followed by a “rule ” or a “moral:” learn to capture every moment as you play marbles; play at being king and reflect on your own imperfections. Similarly we see a thread of this with Cinderella. What do Cinders and her fairy godmother/ghostly mother allow us to learn in a text-to-life connection that really works? Not how to get your Prince or even how to better your abusive family. It is not a handbook of rules for interaction, but has a more general message: if Red Riding Hood says keep your wits about you, Cinderella tells us persistence wins through. Stories need looking at critically as well as with joy and awe. To do that we can employ the tools of retelling. As Angela Carter expresses a desire to validate my claim to a fair share of the future by staking my claim to my share of the past, we need, like the early tellers and audiences of fairy tales, to know the power and the limits of the tale. LGBTQ+ retellings have their own place in staking a claim for part of the community of readers, and Ian Eagleton’s Kai comes up with his own.

Literacy, Margaret Meek proposes in “On Being Literate” helps us to think about something by giving us the words to do it with and a wider range of examples, in stories especially, of how people behave…” (p47) and Kai’s encounter with the magic of his Snow Prince raises a question that is in some ways the queerest question of all:

“Perhaps his grandmother’s stories weren’t entirely true after all?”

Charlie from Heartstopper on his 'phone, looking worried or shocked.

No, Ian, Kai, Nen and the rest: perhaps the wrath of Pelagios stirring up a storm in the sea is unfounded; perhaps the grandmother’s warnings too need consigning to history; perhaps there is companionship, and love and trust and affection, a place where “old wives tales” do not have currency. The doubt Kai experiences turns the whole magic realm on its head… He is in a fairy story and in his story he even manages to turn fairy stories on their heads. This is what I mean by the “different way of knowing:” the independent life of the traditional tale allows the teller – such Ian, such as Disney – to edit and reshape. The transmission gives the teller that license, and to challenge the reader to think and think again. Are all stories valid?

Writers want readers who are prepared to engage with their ideas and to adventure with them in their writing. Habitual readers go to writers for reading lessons as ways of reflecting on experience. together they keep on creating texts, confident that they will, together, solve the puzzle of how should this go…How do writers deflect cynicism and ignorance?

Margaret Meek: On Being Literate, pp163-4.

And all of a sudden I am back in the world of teenage boys texting into the small hours, a world of who is in and who’s out in the small jealousies and hatreds of school life. Like Ian Eagleton and Davide Ortu, Alice Oseman has turned school romance and school friendship stories on their heads, with happy endings rather than tragedy. She tells a story set in the every day, but maybe the two worlds aren’t so different after all. Angela Carter at one point suggests that the domestic situation is often at the heart of the fairy story – but as Neil Philip in his The Cinderella Story suggests, we often need

to recover the sense of surprise and the sense of danger in a tale with which we may be wearily familiar…a way of understanding and confronting our profoundest desires and fears…

The Cinderella Story, Introduction: p2

With Ian and Davide, we find, if we read carefully enough, that the profound desire for love and affection can even pull the rug from under the storyteller.

*I do have some misgivings about the narrative of the various love stories in Heartstopper, which, despite dealing with complexities of acceptance and love and mental health, seem sometimes limited. Not to say I didn’t enjoy them, but they have their own sparseness, or maybe coyness about the realities of adolescent males.

Uncorking a Global Brainquake

Thoughts on Noxious Twitter

Now, I wouldn’t want to play down the monstrosity of Chemical Warfare railed against by Adrian Mitchell, or indeed to connect modern notions of mental health with the now threadbare ideas of irrational destruction in his use of the word madness, but ideas in this poem struck me as a good allegory on how Augist went for me with a smaller engagement with Twitter. While I will acknowledge (see below) some of its benefits, I also need to be clear that some of what I see is akin to what Mitchell calls bottled madness.

We all really hate manufacturing madness

But if we didn’t make madness in bottles

We wouldn’t know how to be sane.

Adrian Mitchell: Open Day at Porton

Twitter is very often a useful tool, a support for learning, a source of inspiration, and I’m not going to indulge in a game* of Ain’t It Awful? In this month where at least to start off with I limited myself (more or less) to hearts and maybe a Tweet or two in open Twitter once a day, I have had time to read and appreciate: this account of a mountain thunderstorm is one of those exemplary pieces. But this is not the whole content of Twitter. James Durran talks at one point about “sneery, in-crowd obnoxiousness,” and it only takes a few clicks to move beyond this into much nastier in-fighting. I’ve seen some appalling behaviour that to my mind should at the very least call into question whether the Teachers Standards should be invoked against people belittling or bullying other professionals: if you wouldn’t allow that behaviour to go unchallenged or unrebuked in a staff room, it has no place in professional dialogue on social media. It is as if we seek the global brainquake, as if the seeking of it affirms our place in the world.

Jeff at Rock Edge.

It would be odd of me to use social media to say social media is a Bad Thing – after all this blog relies on Twitter for traffic on items like my piece on Nen and the Lonely Fisherman. If I felt Twitter was not for me I hope I would simply, quietly, close my accounts and go away. I’m not sure. I have tried the “Look at me I’m leaving Twitter” only to find that, when I wanted it, coming back (during Lent, for example) I simply felt foolish. FOMO seems a major driver for why I am on Twitter and why little by little this month I have come back: a comment here, all the photos of the lovely Jeff (here’s another) who has been with us. I launched off on a rant on the 20th about the Guardian’s adverts for private schools and then thought: Why am I playing this game? And then on 24th August I start a hare about school uniforms and then think What on earth will this add to anybody’s life? Drip by drip from the bottle of madness, or, to change metaphor, I wobble along the tricky line between joining in and attention-seeking. I feel like I am back in the playground of my Junior Phase in Essex: will you play with me? Maybe I am better off posting photos of a trip to London or Lyme Regis, or commenting on the soapwort at the site of a Victorian laundry at the head of the Lye Valley. One thing I am realising is that I would not be missed here, or on Twitter or Facebook or Goodreads, and that’s mostly because people who actually are interested in the same things as I am, or even are interested in what I have to say, often contact me in other ways too. Old-fashioned it might be, but they ‘phone me up, or in more recent style email or WhatsApp me to attract my attention. Who knows? Maybe in September and October I will get to see some Real People! That’s not to say that Twitter is false or utterly shallow, just that the authenticity of reactions and relationships is differently calibrated on Facebook and Twitter, the internet’s version of sticking a post-it on a a noticeboard in the hopes that someone special will see it. Do you know who retweeted me yesterday? To misuse an image of Thomas Merton we are – I am – shooting, round after round into the dark.

So do I give it up? Or how might I fit a valve to my using the media at my disposal?

That reminds me: I have a postcard to send that I picked up at the British Museum Becket exhibition.

Saponaria at the Lye Valley

*I do find the characterisation of some forms of adult activity described by Eric Berne illuminating as I read Twitter, Ain’t It Awful being one of them, Let’s You And Him Fight being another. This website has a good, brief categorisation.